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Reason for not getting erect when needed. MENTAL PROBLEM?

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I'm having issues getting fully erect when the time comes to need it, I'm 17 and I don't think its a physical problem but a mental one and I'm not really sure what to do about it or who else to discuss it with.

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Hello,
Thanks for posting your query at DoctorSpring.com

I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
I would require a few clarifications before I start answering your query.
1. How is your erection when you masturbate?
2. Do you get an early morning erection?
3. What goes through your mind when you are having sex?
4. When did the problem start?

Hope to hear from you soon.
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy MD


Patient replied :

I don't ever really have issues getting one alone, though getting hard enough without being close to a climax is difficult. I do on occasion get early morning erections, it just depends on the day. Next question - A lot. This is the first time having sex with my girlfriend which is where I think at least part of the problem lies, I feel like I'm thinking about it too much and trying to do it on command which isn't working. I had the problem last night when I was there. Had to postpone because of it, embarrassing to say the least but I'm trying to figure out a sure fire way to fix it so I'll be ready when the time comes.

Thanks for your time


Hello,

After going through all the details of your problem that you have mentioned. it seems that you are having an erectile dysfunction which is exclusively psychological. There is a compulsion to perform sex and hence you are not able to perform. There are no medicines that can help you in this regard as most of the medicines are for erectile dysfunction when the cause is organic. And in your case the cause is psychological.
You need to go ahead step by step. During the next sexual encounter, instead of going ahead with insertion spend time only with the other sexual acts which interests you both. Indulge in insertion only when you both become comfortable with each others bodies. It may take 3-4 occasions. But then the things will settle down.
You may even meet a psyhologist who may train you in some relaxation exercises which you may do before you are about to have sex. This will keep your anxiety low and will help you in having proper sex.

Hope this helps


Patient replied :

That is helpful, thanks. Do you know of any techniques to use?


Hello,
There are no such techniques. You just need more foreplay with your partner, and that will allow you slowly to get rid of all your anxiety, and be ready for sex.
Meanwhile i feel some sessions with a psychologist will be helpful. He can guide you about various calming techniques or ways of relieving anxiety.
Regards.


Dr. Srikanth Reddy
Category: Sexologist
Experience: 
Doctor of Medicine (MD), Psychiatry Residency Program,2001 – 2012
M.B.B.S,Mahatma Gandhi Institute Of Medical Sciences, Sevagram

Certificate Course in sex Therapy and Counselling, Sexology and Counselling, A
Sexology,Medikon Sexual Sciences, Mumbai

Training in Advanced Neurology at a leading corporate hospital (CARE hospital) in Hyderabad

Child Psychiatry Training in National Institute of Mental Health and Neuro-Sciences, Bangalore

Sex Therapy and Counsellingat MEDIKON Sexual Sciences, Mumbai.
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