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Getting PRECUM on talkin to girlfriend. ANTIDEPRESSANTS.

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Hi Doctor, I am 23 years old. I do not masturbate at all and i consider it anti healthy. There is this girl i like very much , my girl friend i havent met her in personal yet but we talk a lot online.

we never had sex chat , but daily life things and stuff. but whenever i does talk her i get precum. sometimes a lot. this is making me go nuts. i went to a doctor and he gave me anti depression tablets and it reduced it.

And im concerned if i meet her or get married her also will the problem continue?

please help me :(

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Thanks for posting your query at
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
The precum that you were having is a natural lubricant. When you get sexually excited by talking to her, your body gets ready to have sex and the result is the precum that you have. Its natural and not an illness.
Mostly if you get married, and start having regular sex then this problem will reduce on its own. In case if it still persists then it is called as premature ejaculation and good therapies for it. Its a type of anxiety disorder and the person normally suffers from performance anxiety where in he is anxious if he can perform or not.
First you can try the start stop technique. Your wife is supposed to start stimulating you and the moment you are about to ejaculated she is supposed to stop all the stimulaton and and hold your penis head hard. Now this should be repeated.
Perineal exercises also help. These are the muscle exercises that occur when you contract the perineal muscles like when you are trying to stop the urine or feces. You have to do this contrations repeatedly daily to tone up the perineal muscles.
One solution is medications. Some patients are not willing to wait for these acts to produce results and instead demand medicines. I prescribe them 12.5 mg paroxetine at night and they are doing good. Normally one should try until 25mg of Paroxetine. If paroxetine is not effective then Dapoxetine is an option. It has to be given 1 hour before having sex and will prolong the sexual interval.
Mostly you will not require any treatment and the problem will not exist when you get married and start having regular sex.
Hope this helps,
In case if you have any further query, do let me know.
Kind regards

Patient replied :

Hi doctor,
even if i am not talking about sex , i get the precum. Can you please prescribe me or guide me something. I dont talk sex. even if i chat her over facebook i get precum without an errection.

please guide

Thanks for the follow-up question.
Yes you are right. When you are talking to her, you get sexually stimulated and hence you get the pre-cum. This is natural and will reduce ones you get used to her. This is not an illness or abnormality.

Dr. Srikanth Reddy
Category: Sexologist
Doctor of Medicine (MD), Psychiatry Residency Program,2001 – 2012
M.B.B.S,Mahatma Gandhi Institute Of Medical Sciences, Sevagram

Certificate Course in sex Therapy and Counselling, Sexology and Counselling, A
Sexology,Medikon Sexual Sciences, Mumbai

Training in Advanced Neurology at a leading corporate hospital (CARE hospital) in Hyderabad

Child Psychiatry Training in National Institute of Mental Health and Neuro-Sciences, Bangalore

Sex Therapy and Counsellingat MEDIKON Sexual Sciences, Mumbai.
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